by Dr. Mommy on July 29, 2010
Do you ever hear this: ‘so that’s what you look like’ or ‘do I need to make an appointment with you?’ or ‘perhaps I should send you an email’ If you have, those are sure signs that something is going wrong. But, it’s also a good sign. How so? Because at least there is some form of communication occurring. What would be worse is the non-verbal treatment.
Communication is essential in any relationship. How else will you know what the other person is feeling or thinking? No matter how well you think you know the other person, you can not possibly read their mind, so don’t bother trying. Verbal communication is best, but yes, in this world of high-technology an email or text will work just as well.
So, if you’ve heard those phrases mentioned above or even if you haven’t. Perhaps you have noticed a mood change or some alienation occurring, chances are – there is something definitely wrong. To keep this from happening it is imperative to spend time with your significant other. It can be as simple as going out for a walk, if it’s not thundering or snowing or 100% humidity. In any case, as long as you make an effort to spend some quality time with this person, you will avoid any further issues.
Consider a date night or date lunch or simply a date. Shopping or eating doesn’t necessarily have to be involved to call it a ‘date’. Strolling in the mall and ‘window shopping’ is always fun. Or perhaps you are the ‘fitness type’ and would rather exercise together, that will work just as well.
The point is that you MUST make time for each other. Please don’t ever use the excuse that we have children or worse yet, that we don’t have time. If you have children, have friends, or a family member watch them for an hour or two or even just 30 minutes. Too often I have seen relationships go sour, because they used their children as ‘scape goats’. Develop that friendship again. Spend quality time together. Your children, if you have any, will notice and that is also important.
So, what will you do to spend time with your significant other? Surprise them with a picnic in the back yard, or meet up for coffee at near by cafe, whatever you decide, please do it today!
by Dr. Mommy on July 26, 2010
If you have been listening to my radio show, you will know that I have been featuring the book called The Go-Giver, written by Bob Burg and John David Mann. This is an incredible book and if you haven’t read it, I highly suggest you put it on your reading list.
On my show called Family Talk, I have had several guests share how this little book has impacted not only their business but their life as a whole. It was funny to read this book because while I was reading it I kept nudging my husband and sharing the different laws. My husband was trying to watch a game or movie at the time and literally muted it while I discussed the book with him. What was funny was that all the laws explained within the story were laws we had been applying in our Chiropractic office from the beginning and have continued for 20 years!
When we first started our Chiropractic office, our peers thought we were crazy because we gave so much more than expected and basically treated all our patients like family. All our patients know our children’s names as well as their birthdays and some were even in attendance at some of the births {yes we had home births for 3 out of the 5}. Treating each of our patients and providing true value is what we are known for in our community and we take great pride in that fact.
So, while reading the Go-Giver the first law that was presented was the Law of Value, and it truly hit close to home. You see, the law says that your true worth is determined by how much you give in value than you take in payment. This holds true to not only your business but your life as whole. In order to gain respect of others you must be willing to give much more than you receive. But most importantly give because you truly want to give not because you are expecting something in return. Believe it or not you will ultimately receive great things in return especially when you don’t expect it.
For example, when I was in the hospital for 4 weeks with my last pregnancy, many of our patients or how I like to call them, ‘family members’ were there to help our family. We had 4 young children at home that were scared because their Mommy was in the hospital and their Daddy was working in the office alone. Many of our ‘family’ came to the rescue, taking turns answering phones as well as helping with the children. We never asked for this help, yet it was given because of the value we had provided and continue to provide.
The law of value is something that must be present in your business but also in your entire life. Something that we must naturally exhibit for not only our clients, patients, and our co-workers but for our family to witness. The greatest gift is the one our children witness daily. The law of value — how are you sharing it in your life? Share your thoughts and if you’ve read this fabulous book I’d love to read how it has impacted your life.
PS. Be sure to listen to Family Talk Radio Show for more amazing stories and check out the archives too:)
Do you ever hear this: ‘so that’s what you look like’ or ‘do I need to make an appointment with you?’ or ‘perhaps I should send you an email’ If you have, those are sure signs that something is going wrong. But, it’s also a good sign. How so? Because at least there is some form of communication occurring. What would be worse is the non-verbal treatment.
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