If you are a wife, mom and entrepreneur, than let’s face it, you may be more motivated by practical things like “more money” than more sex. One of these elements seems utterly more useful in our quest of running a smooth home, right?
I mean, sure hubby may think of sex more than I do, but how will more sex help pay the bills and grow our income? In fact, I’ve had plenty of women tell me they are so stressed about money that it’s killing their sex drive. They ask,
“How can I have great sex when I’m feeling financially strapped?”
Well, if you’ve ever wondered this, take heart!
The better question to ask might be, “How could I feel financially strapped, when we have such great sex?!”
No, I’m serious! And I have proof.
First put your hand on your chest, rub it all around, and repeat after me:
“My sexual energy flows freely throughout my body, invigorating me, bringing passion to my marriage and inspiring creative solutions!”
Ok. I know you didn’t do it, cause you don’t believe me yet. Hang with me, my sister, I’m in your corner.
1. More and Better Sex Makes You Feel Richer
It’s true. In a popular study from Dartmouth University, 16,000 people were polled about their happiness levels in relation to their love lives. It was apparent that sex, more than money leads to the most happiness. In fact, the conclusion was that if couples increase their lovemaking from 1x per month, for example, to 1x per week, the resulting happiness was equal to what they would feel with a $50,000 per year raise.
Now you tell me how differently you would act financially if you had $50,000 more dollars. You would probably attract more and more money, just by letting go of your fear and acting with love and confidence.
2. True Love with Great Sex Raises Your Self-Esteem & Creativity
Obviously I’m not talking about begrudging, mercy sex here. Lord have mercy, that can be harder on one’s ego than no sex at all. I’m talking about the reason they call it “making love.” This is the erotic pleasure that is given and received as an expression of the commitment, passion and friendship you share with that guy that stood at the altar with you. Of course you may not be “feeling it,” before you begin – but opening your self to such joy makes both of you feel better about yourselves. Not only that, but those delightful orgasms flood your bodies with oxytocin, the bonding hormone. You literally feel closer to your mate, richer, sexier and more valuable.
When you feel good about yourself, you command more money. It’s simple. Money is an exchange of value. I could preach a whole article just on this idea, but let it sink in a while. We earn within a few thousand dollars, what we feel we are worth.
I will add here that after struggling with low sex drive for several years in our marriage, I was able to turn it around one night. The result? Not just greater intimacy and more happiness in our marriage, but my husband immediately doubled his income. Sure, our husband’s self-esteem may be more closely related to his “home run ability” than ours is, but why not kick it up for his sake?
Are you kidding? To help him increase his income, I can stop nagging and start loving? Oooh, yeah, baby. As an added bonus – it feels great. What’s not to love about all this? The greater the sense of abandon within the freedom of marriage, the greater the confidence, creativity and channeling of a man’s ability to provide.
In the classic, Think and Grow Rich, Napolean Hill noted that almost all 500 of the wealthiest men he interviewed were motivated by the love of a woman. It was that love that raised them up to demonstrate genius in the marketplace. In his words, “The emotions of love, sex and romance are sides of the eternal triangle of achievement-building genius. Nature creates genii through no other force.”
He also described how few men really achieve this true success because they fail to properly channel their sex drive.
As wives, moms and businesswomen, there is no power greater for up-leveling our game than a sizzling, sacred sex life. Your erotic energy is part of your God-given design. Fruitfulness flows from it, when it’s celebrated as in the Garden of Eden.
3. Great Sex Reduces Stress and Makes You Healthier
Tons of research has shown that sex that is celebrated (not forced or fought over) actually reduces stress for the lovers. Plenty of other research suggests that up to 90% of all sickness and disease has its roots in stress.
Your body was not made to produce adrenaline and the fight or flight (or freeze) syndrome every day. Stress is a physical and emotional problem. But think about it: Great Sex is a physical and emotional solution.
What does it take to enjoy Great Sex? A few things including:
- The chance to slow down and get in touch with your senses.
- The chance to feel good about yourself. The more loving and accepting you are of your own naked (literally and figuratively) self, the better the lovemaking.
- The chance to feel good about your mate. It’s always healthy to focus on what is good instead of annoying about that dear spouse. For the best sex, we tend to do just that.
Those mindsets alone reduce stress, but then the emotional bonding, the sensations of pleasure, the contractions from the orgasms, all lead to better well being and stress-relief as well.
In conclusion, no matter how your sex life has gone up till now, you can always turn it around or turn it up and reap huge benefits.
I know what it’s like to struggle, which is one reason I’m so passionate about helping others. Right now as you take in a deep breath, I’ll say it with you,
“My sexual energy flows freely and abundantly, enriching my marriage, boosting my self-esteem and unleashing creative solutions where I need them.”
You can do this!
I believe in you.