Having a loving relationship with your children is a beautiful gift. However, it can be a challenge at times, as children express love in their own unique way. You love your children very much, so it is so vital to learn what each child’s unique and preferred ways of communicating love as every child is different.
Tips On How To Grow A Loving Relationship With Your Children:
Determine Your Child’s Love Language:
The best way to make your child feel loved and safe is to discover how they would like to be loved and go with what resonates with them. However,this may not be the same way that you like to be loved yourself.
Many children enjoy “feeling” and desire lots of hugs and kisses. Other children are more “hearing” oriented and want to hear how much you love them. Others want to “see” expressions of your love through cards, notes, or other visual ways. Some children want you nearby at all times, while others are happiest with their independence.
Listen To Your Children:
There are many things to keep in mind as you grow your relationship with your
children, but perhaps the most important is the fact that you need to let your children become independent and find their true selves.
You’ll want to give your children your attention while, at the same time, allowing them freedom. You can do this by allowing them to spend time with their friends, but make sure you schedule a regular get together at your own house so you can remain involved.
While it’s so important to let them know your feelings on important subjects, at the same time be sure to value your child’s opinion also. They need to have their say, as well! This means that you need to trust your kids and believe that they’ll make good decisions.
Understand Your Children:
You may not remember what it was like to go through the same stages your children are going through, however, it’s so vital to at least try to understand their underlying thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and beliefs.
Give Praise Often:
Remember to praise your children as often as possible. Focus on the things that
they do well, rather then the things that they don’t do so well. When a child is given
praise they are going to want to do more of those things because of how it made them feel.
Show Your Appreciation:
When your child does something special for you, make sure they you show your appreciation. Sometimes just by telling them. “Thank you for being You!” will make them feel like they are on top of the world.
It is so important to be able to communicate with your children. Get down on the their level by talking with them and not down to them. Really listen to what they’re saying by giving them your undivided attention. Give them a chance to say what is on their mind. Don’t judge them, but rather help them through problems without passing judgment. Be sympathetic by telling them about a time when you faced a similar challenge.
Spend Quality Time:
While there are different love languages that you can use to express love with your children, spending quality time with your them is a part of all of them. Whether you’re simply having fun by enjoying everyday activities or you’re going on an exciting vacation, treasure and savor each moment with your child!
Remember you are building memories. Make sure that these memories are ones that you want your children to remember in a loving way!
If you have more than one child, it’s important to spend individual time with each of them. Children need to feel special and, by giving your individual attention, it shows them your love.
When your kids grow into their teenage years, it can prove to be a challenging time. Teens will sometimes withdraw and may decide to spend more time with friends rather than their family. Just make sure that they know that you are there for them. However, there are still strategies you can follow to continue a loving relationship.
Here are some things to remember:
• Allow your teenager privacy. Trust your teen if you have no reason to do otherwise.
• Treat him or her like an adult as often as possible, but maintain the parent/child connection.
• Have dinner together every day whenever possible as a family.
Enjoy these precious years with your children. Let your children know just how much you love and are proud of them, often. Trust me, they grow up very fast! I can’t believe that my baby is 26 years old, it just seem like yesterday that he was just a little guy. Remember, it is not what we leave to our children but rather what we leave in them that really matters!