Do you ever hear this: ‘so that’s what you look like’ or ‘do I need to make an appointment with you?’ or ‘perhaps I should send you an email’ If you have, those are sure signs that something is going wrong. But, it’s also a good sign. How so? Because at least there is some form of communication occurring. What would be worse is the non-verbal treatment.
Communication is essential in any relationship. How else will you know what the other person is feeling or thinking? No matter how well you think you know the other person, you can not possibly read their mind, so don’t bother trying. Verbal communication is best, but yes, in this world of high-technology an email or text will work just as well.
So, if you’ve heard those phrases mentioned above or even if you haven’t. Perhaps you have noticed a mood change or some alienation occurring, chances are – there is something definitely wrong. To keep this from happening it is imperative to spend time with your significant other. It can be as simple as going out for a walk, if it’s not thundering or snowing or 100% humidity. In any case, as long as you make an effort to spend some quality time with this person, you will avoid any further issues.
Consider a date night or date lunch or simply a date. Shopping or eating doesn’t necessarily have to be involved to call it a ‘date’. Strolling in the mall and ‘window shopping’ is always fun. Or perhaps you are the ‘fitness type’ and would rather exercise together, that will work just as well.
The point is that you MUST make time for each other. Please don’t ever use the excuse that we have children or worse yet, that we don’t have time. If you have children, have friends, or a family member watch them for an hour or two or even just 30 minutes. Too often I have seen relationships go sour, because they used their children as ‘scape goats’. Develop that friendship again. Spend quality time together. Your children, if you have any, will notice and that is also important.
So, what will you do to spend time with your significant other? Surprise them with a picnic in the back yard, or meet up for coffee at near by cafe, whatever you decide, please do it today!
Dr. Daisy Sutherland is the Founder/CEO of Dr. Mommy Online. She is a doctor, author, mentor, speaker, wife & mom to 5 children. Dr. Mommy's mission is to ~ Help Busy Women and Men with her 'Get Real' approach to living a happier and healthier lifestyle. Watch for new book: 'Letting Go of Super Mom' coming out August 7, 2012.
