Rebellious Teens

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Wow!! That’s all I can say about the rebellious teens of today!!

Now I am not blind to the fact that we all were teens at one time and were rebellious as well, but it seems that today’s teens are out of control.

I attribute a lot of the changes to the media and today’s society and culture. When growing up, no one ever interfered with my parent’s skills of discipline. Or the many ways they would punish to teach us a lesson, or so, they would say. Children were more respectful of elders in general. Children were ‘seen’ and not ‘heard’ during adult conversations. And the craziness in today’s school system was unheard of.

What is going on? It seems that we, as parents are not allowed to discipline our children today, in fear of damaging their ‘self-esteem’. I believe that this is all crazy!! Don’t get me wrong, I am not for child-abuse or verbal abuse, but discipline is very important!

There are ways to discipline that don’t involved physical harm or psychological harm. I was raised by very strict parents, and although I didn’t like their ways of handling situations, their system worked. I went to school, excelled in my career, became engaged, married and had children, in that order..

I am not saying that those who decide to have children first and then schooling or no schooling are raised bad, no, no, but I am saying that we were not disrespectful and became adults that are aware of our responsibilities and handle them correctly, whatever they may be.

I have 2 teenagers and although I do not raise them like I was raised, I do instill many responsibilities upon them. RESPECT is very important in our household, and something that is important in their daily lives and will be forever. They know that the decisions they make are something that they will have to deal with and that mommy and daddy will not bail them out.

Another important ingredient in our household is our FAITH, and I have worked very diligently to instill that in them. It is difficult in this day in age, because not everyone attends church, so when I can bring my entire family to service every Sunday, that means something. My children know the importance and relevance of our Faith in our home and I appreciate that.

Every family is different, but what strikes me the most is the teens of today! With all the electronics and technology we have available today, it seems our teens are much lazier.

That is something I deal with on a daily basis. Peer pressure is even worse today, than it ever was! Thankfully, I home school my children, but peer pressure exists in extra curricular activities as well. Some peer pressure is positive but the majority is negative and very damaging.

Being a parent today is not easy and I would imagine that it wasn’t easy in our parent’s time either. Everything is relevant. The biggest difference I see today is the lack of RESPECT and responsibility placed on our children. Just recently, I read that children that are in their 30′s are moving back with their parents because they were not successful in the ‘real’ world! That is crazy!

It is up to us as parents to instill morals, and values in our children. It is not an easy task but one that is necessary. When my daughter is seen as a role model because she is still ‘pure’ at the age of 17, there is something wrong with society. It should be seen as normal!

But, unfortunately, that is another result of peer pressure and upbringing. My daughter is very proud of who she is, and although she is quite rebellious at times, I am very proud of her too. I can’t imagine growing up in today’s society and having the pressure from all angles and still be able to stand your ground.

I am also proud of my husband and I, for rearing her and guiding her in the right direction. It is not easy, by any means, but it is something that must be done. And I am not finished yet!! I will soon be dealing with her in college and the added influences and pressures that come with that experience.

But my job is far from over, I still have 3 younger children along with my teens that are experiencing everything in our household as well, and the fear of getting punished is one that keeps them in line. Wow!! Parenting is not an easy task, especially with rebellious teens.

Those parents that still have infants, toddlers and pre-schoolers, cherish those moments, because the road ahead is a challenging one. Although it is challenging, it is fun and I love all the experiences I have dealt with to date. Some were not any to be proud of, but the good out weigh the bad. And so far, I am surviving the rebellious teen years….

 

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  1. 1
    Mary Lutz says:

    Wow! What a great post! I am a mom of 4, two in their 20′s, and two teens. My oldest, a daughter, waited until she was married, and I’m very proud of her. Grandbaby number 2 is on the way.

    I am also a youth leader in our church, and I see the effect lack of discipline has on our children.
    I agreed that it has a lot to do with the media, etc. Probably about 2/3 of the kids in our youth group are un-churched (their parents do not attend church at all or very little).

    I think our teens have become very disprespectful to adults and other authority figures due to the “tolerance” issue. We are now being taught to tolerate things that used to be forbidden. We are now being taught that everything is okay, if that’s what you believe and our society is suffering because of it.

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    Teresa KK says:

    I totally agree with your post! It doesn’t help when parents buy “Grand Theft Auto” 1,2,3 &4 for their 10 year old. btw these are the “Christian” parents…
    May The Lord, correct us all!

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    LaTara says:

    Great post! Being a mom who has just had to send her 15 year old son to live with his Grandmother for a while because he and my husband are not getting along, you can feel like a failure, even if your child is not a bad one.

    My son is not bad he is just 15 with a lot going on but my husband does not get it.

    Rebellion does not happen just because a parent is bad but because the enemy knows that teens can easily succumb to the perils of the world.

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    Hadias says:

    Raising children is a very important job in and of itself, yet raising teens becomes even more fundamentally important since they have such a huge impact on their siblings.

    We had a season of rebellion with our oldest but we remained steadfast in our beliefs and refused to compromise on fundamental Biblical values.

    We reassured with love while continue to reinforce the vision for our home and children.

    The pressures that children face today seem to be even greater than the ones that we’ve faced in our generation. Virtue and modesty are not looked upon as desireable characteristics by main stream society. I often remind my children that we are not seeking the approval of man but of God.

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    This was a great post. I am the mother of a 14, 8, 6 and 4 year old.

    What are the ages of your children?
    Have a blessed day.

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    Hadias says:

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