We all have fears and actually it’s quite normal to have fears. Some will fear heights where others may fear the dark. Some may have the fear of dogs, birds, as well as bugs, spiders, and snakes. The list can go on and on but do you know what the biggest fear is?
You may be surprised by this but the biggest fear many have is that of succeeding. Now you may be thinking that I am absolutely crazy but consider this. Many of you work very diligently to succeed in many aspects of your lives. You have grown used to failing or not succeeding to your own expectations. Some have become accustomed to never achieving the levels that have been placed on them to the point that they are afraid of succeeding. It turns into a fear of the unknown.
You try so hard but never reach it and once you do, you are afraid of the next step. Make sense? Many will actually succeed in life and in what they set out to do but; how many will continue on that path? It is only the strong that will continue on that path of success. Not the strength from muscles but that of will power and perseverance. Once you have passed the threshold of the hard work, it doesn’t stop or it shouldn’t stop! The hard work continues and that is where many will falter.
Another aspect that will create the fear of success is the expectations that are placed upon you. Sure you already have certain expectations of yourself but once you succeed, the expectations are greater or so you think. The biggest critics will not be your parents, your spouse, your co-workers or your boss. The biggest critic of all is — YOU!
Amazing how your mind works and how it can tear you apart. If you allow your own insecurities to get in the way, you will surely fail. The fear of the unknown and what awaits you after you ‘succeed’ can be truly debilitating if you allow it!
Once you reach success you will fear that others will judge you or not want to be near you. At times those fears may be a reality but what you neglect to realize is that it is a choice. You must not fear success because of what others will say or think of you. Instead you must move forward and associate with those who understand and will truly empower you.
Don’t fear success for it awaits you! Don’t compare your successes to those of others, for those who you think are successful may actually think YOU are the successful one. Instead push yourself beyond the limits. Concentrate on your success and set aside the fear because the only thing holding you back is YOU!
Dr. Daisy Sutherland is the Founder/CEO of Dr. Mommy Online. She is a doctor, author, mentor, speaker, wife & mom to 5 children. Dr. Mommy's mission is to ~ Help Busy Women and Men with her 'Get Real' approach to living a happier and healthier lifestyle. Watch for new book: 'Letting Go of Super Mom' coming out August 7, 2012.
This is a post I’m printing out to keep on my desk right above my computer Daisy ~ thank you for pushing me to believe in all I can be!